Can stars speak?
In Raj Kanwar’s Ladla, Sridevi plays an entrepreneur who falls in love with a foreman in her factory, marries him, and performs the obligatory role of carrying his lunch to work. So we all know about the role of women in the industry and the films it makes. Here’s some more. A review of Hema Malini’s official biography (Hema Malini: The Authorized Biography) picks up interesting stuff from the book (I must confess this is absolutely lazy on my part to base this rant on a tiny review). Besides addressing husband respectfully as Dharamji, throwing light on how they produced two babies, and deflecting attention from her role as the other woman, reminding us of the centrality of destiny (rather than action by individual agency) she also offers tips for aspiring actresses:
Her advice to heroines keen on settling down – they must do so before they turn thirty. Later, it becomes difficult to start a family. At the end of the day, you need someone beside you to share your life and thoughts, Hema asserts.
On Dharamji position in the relationship:
“Dharamji trusted me and encouraged my pursuits. Always concerned and demonstrative in our private space, his reassurance has instilled confidence in me,” Hema says.
On fate and god, rather than herself, playing a role in her relationship with Dharamji:
“That I should be attracted towards him and none of my other heroes was providential. That I was willing to risk societal pressures and moral accusations were the will of God,”
Even at this stage of her life, where she is materially and politically well cared for, her anxiety to distance herself from the tag of the “other woman” is palpable. The poor lady explains it thus:
Hema strongly resents being referred to as the first lady of second marriage, says the biographer. She does not like the term. “It is not as if I set out to be the trendsetter. That would be trivialising the feeling and the relationship. I cannot be held responsible for every woman in similar situation, neither can I be compared with anyone,” says Hema.
We get it HemaJi!
Read entire review here.